Let’s suppose you know someone who was in the hospital for an extended stay, 144 days for example. For whatever reason, during their stay, you never visited them. First, understand that while most people in the hospital like that want all the visitors they can get, they also know that people can have many reasons for not visiting – time, discomfort with hospitals, etc. When that person gets out and you see them at a social function, that’s not the time to let your guilt overwhelm you and apologize for not showing up. It’s awkward. The former patient can only say something forgiving. Your excuse will make them uncomfortable. And, at least internally, they’ll be evaluating it. Just don’t do it. Instead, express limited interest in their progress and happiness that they are out. Don’t suggest stretches or exercises to supplement their occupational or physical therapy routines. They are working with trained professionals. Be encouraging; be supportive and just move on.
July 15, 2008
What not to say
Posted by Michael under Advice, Personal | Tags: Guillain-Barré syndrome, Personal |1 Comment
July 17, 2008 at 11:27 pm
Eloquently said as usual, I’ve come to expect no less from you. I don’t know who this was directed at, but I hope they have access to your blog! Now come on though, there really might be a good stretching exercise out there that could be helpful. : )